So, Your Boss is Driving You Crazy?
by Jon Lewis, Managing Director, Michael Lord & Company
It's a sad reality that in a market where many law firms and
companies have gone through significant downsizing some supervisors
have become considerably more demanding of those fortunate
souls who still have jobs. Bosses themselves face the stress
of getting the work done with fewer bodies, and are well aware
that their remaining employees have far fewer exit options
available.
So, what do you do when your boss is killing you with such
workplace plagues as excessive work, unreasonable deadlines,
inadequate guidance, disrespectful behavior, etc.? Sadly,
for most, the idea of confronting your persecutor with a heart-felt
"take this job and shove it" is nothing more than
an oh-so-sweet pipedream. But assuming that you don’t
have the luxury of quitting, here are a number of constructive
steps you can take:
- Assess the Situation Honestly
Do you really have an impossible boss? REALLY??? Sometimes,
blaming the boss for your troubles can be an all-too-convenient
way to avoid a painful but necessary exercise in self-assessment.
Before you do anything else, step back and try to determine
the real causes of your difficulties. As much as possible,
look at the problems which have arisen from your boss' perspective
rather than your own (you can be darn sure that’s
what they are doing). If it helps, talk this through with
a friend whom you can trust to be more objective than you
might be. Are those deadlines truly unreasonable, or have
you been taking too many two-hour lunches? Are you really
receiving too little guidance, or have you been failing
to take sufficient initiative? Your boss may indeed be an
ogre, but make sure you have taken a good long look in the
mirror before reaching that conclusion.
- Stay Calm
If you are being mistreated by your boss, you will undoubtedly
be feeling a very strong sense of frustration and anger
(if not, congratulations, you've achieved a level of inner
peace that makes reading the rest of this unnecessary!)
Remember, though, what matters most is finding effective
ways to address the situation. Be sure to stay calm in dealing
with difficult supervisors, and don't burn bridges too quickly.
Even if you get some immediate satisfaction from telling
your boss exactly what you think of him or her, the memory
of that moment of joy may not be sufficient comfort if you
end up losing your job and can't find a new one.
- Seek Help From Colleagues and Predecessors
If your boss is really a tyrant, odds are strong that you
are not his or her first victim. Others who have worked
with him or her in the past may be able to offer some strategies
they have utilized to more successfully interact with your
supervisor. Seeking such guidance can also serve as a useful
reality check: if everybody else acts surprised by your
inquiry and thinks your boss is a sweetheart, go back to
step 1 above, quick!
- Communicate
Ask your boss to schedule a meeting to discuss your problems.
If he or she is receptive this can help clear the air; if
not, you can at least let others know that you tried. Make
sure that you take the right tone here—as appealing
as it may seem, this is not the time to confront your supervisor
with a laundry list of complaints, no matter how justified
they may be. You are far more likely to get good results
if you instead let your boss know that you would like to
improve your relationship by finding ways to better do your
job, and help him or her in doing theirs.
- Consider Speaking With HR
Discussing your problems with your employer's human resources
department is a logical idea (that's what they are there
for, after all), and this can often be a very useful step.
Be aware, though, that doing this comes with the cost that
you may lose control of the situation. Once HR gets involved,
things can sometimes ratchet up quickly, and such situations
of course do not always end well for everyone (or sometimes
anyone!) involved. While others may disagree on this, my
personal advice would be to delay going to HR at least until
you have exhausted all other avenues of addressing the situation
on your own.
- Be Flexible in Looking for Greener Pastures
There are, of course, some bosses who really are impossible
to deal with, no matter how hard you try to make things
work. No one should ever put up with a boss who is truly
abusive. In such cases, an exit may really be the only solution.
You can and should explore other employment opportunities
at the same time you are attempting to improve your current
situation. Even in a difficult job market, there are usually
some other opportunities to be found, but you may need to
make some compromises to take advantage of them. Relocating
to another city or accepting a position with lower pay may
not be ideal, but if you really need to get away from a
psycho boss, such trade-offs may be worth making.
Jon Lewis is a Managing Director with Michael Lord & Company. Jon graduated from Yale Law School and Wesleyan University and is formerly a trademark counsel at Joseph E. Seagram & Company and an associate at the predecessor firm to the New York City office of Dorsey & Whitney. His direct dial is 646.431.3431, and his email address is jon@mlordco.com.
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Michael Lord & Company, New York, NY and Wilton, CT. All
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